Me Meme

[radiantbaby]

Hell, why not? Ganked from everyone and their mother...

The problem with LJ: We all think we are so close, but really we know nothing about each other. So I want you to ask me something you think you should know about me. Something that should be obvious, but you have no idea about. Ask away.

Then post this in your LJ and find out what people don't know about you.

Comments

Re: to continue with the theme

[radiantbaby.livejournal.com]

Wow, that is a hard question. I mean, I think I would say that my choices of what I want in a mate have changed since I became poly, but I think they changed straight across the board (i.e. even regarding more "primary"-style relationships). I think a lot of my concepts of the world have shifted in general, so that has changed the way I see people.

As for what makes someone stand out, it's hard to say. I mean, yes, sometimes it might be how they are dressed or how they look, but often its just something intriguing about their presense. I admit that I tend to notice introverts more than extroverts (which is funny as, to the contrary, many extroverts barely even notice introverts!). Maybe that's just a kindred spirit sort of thing though.

Once we get past any intrigue, conversation with them is a must. I mean, I am not a big talker by any stretch of the imagination, but I find if I am comfortable enough around someone to talk, that is a really good sign! It's even better if we can share a comfortable silence where we are not both insecurely trying our best to fill the pockets of silence and are instead just happy to be in one another's presense.

Let's see, I try and look for people with common interests (though mine admittedly tend toward the obscure) and I really like a sense of silliness in a person (I love to laugh and to let my own sillybeat loose!). I also am drawn to people who are open to new things (whether it be something "major" or just a new restuarant).

One thing I have noticed with my relationship opening up is that I seem to be more picky about men than women. I am still trying to figure that one out though, so I'll have to get back to you on that. Still, overall, I am much less picky than I used to be. I used to have a "list" of what I wanted in a mate and then I got someone who fit the list to a tea (my ex-fiance) and turned out to be one of the worst people for me! Funny that...